For those who are newly divorced, the holidays can be a difficult time of the year.

Every year many former couples have to figure out how Christmas will be celebrated, especially if children are involved. It can be an immensely painful thing to do but at the same time, it’s an opportunity for new traditions and experience. There’s always a silver-lining, however, sometimes that’s easier said than done.

So, what can you do to survive Christmas? Here are some survival tips for the newly divorced:

Make a plan

What type of plan, you wonder? Make a list, of where you will be, with who, what you’ll be doing, what you’ll think about, and even what you won’t let yourself think about. The last two questions are especially important as you can easily get led on a path of melancholy and feeling sorry for yourself during the holiday period which no one wants to do. By making a plan and trying your best to follow it, you will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.

Surround yourself with friends and family

If for some reason you don’t know where you’ll be or with who, then start getting busy and make plans. If possible, surround yourself with people, help others cooking and prepping for Christmas or go to the movies, anything that requires your attention with other people involved. It’ll help you get your mind off the fact that it’s your first Christmas without your family and it’s a chance for you to have as much fun as you possibly can.

Begin new traditions

Since basically everything in your life is changing right now, including Christmas traditions. Spend some time thinking about what you can do this year that is completely new, different as well as fun. Making a list of things that will keep your mind busy and that can be enjoyable with your children is a great way of testing and creating new traditions and it’ll also help your children come to terms with the new family circumstances. It can be things from going to the cinema to playing bowling, think outside the box as well as you can come up with great things to do with your children.

Taking these steps will help you get through the Christmas period with less anxiety and worries and feel proud of yourself for being able to tackle such a tough period.